怎么样找到人生伴侣

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刚才我老婆带的老三去那个乐高公园玩了

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然后我因为带着老大老二去了两三次了

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实在不想去

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然后自己来到海边呢闲逛一下啊

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这是圣地亚哥的一个海边

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大家看漂不漂亮

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再看一下这个海边啊

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太美了

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所以你任何时候你只要是心静不下来的时候

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你就找一个海边

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然后看看海或找一座山

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然后看看远方

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你的心眼立马就静下来了

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真的啊

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因为我每天我收到特别多的留言啊

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因为每个人的困惑大部分都是心不静导致的

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对昨天有一个兄弟留言是权哥

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我现在也赚了钱了

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能不能告诉我怎么找到好老婆

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我觉得中国现在没有好女人了

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也很有意思啊

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啊其实我经常收到这种话题

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就是他为什么中国现在的对立面很严重呢

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是因为你很难遇到优质的女性

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比如说一个人呢

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你做的这个行业和职业

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你遇到的人呢

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很有可能是一个没有什么聪明才智的人

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他就是在一个最底层

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所以这时候呢你就很难给他产生共鸣

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特别是你刚开始你说你很穷啊

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然后你慢慢的你变得有钱了

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但是呢你的成绩没有提升是吧

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就举个例子啊

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比如说我自己创业啊

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然后我老婆是我同学嘛

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实际上以我们的起点啊

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我们能走到今天

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真的是狗屎运

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大概率很难成功的

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因为从那个刚开始大学毕业

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我当时呢在步步高当业务员

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底薪呢600块

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我老婆呢当时是在一个藏药公司吧

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就搞那个就那种那种老头卖给老头

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老太太那种那种药

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对他也不是骗人啊

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就是那种卖那种藏药啊

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一个月底薪450

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可能啊

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加上提成啊

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能挣个六七百

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也就这个水平

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你如果说我们不做生意的话

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大概率是做什么呢

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到今天可能40岁嘛

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那可能公司倒闭了啊

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或者说你自己呢也被公司给淘汰了

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但是呢恰恰是因为我们做了这个创了业

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所以呢现在还不错

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对现在呢就是啊你说财务自由呢

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创业几年财务自由了

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因为你赶上了这个互联网的红利嘛

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啊赶到风口了

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那你找你

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如果说你在创业期间

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你再去找对象呢

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你大概率啊就跟我们公司的人一样啊

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就是找个同事

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我们公司的那些主管啊

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经理啊

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应该八九十%

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最后导致都是同事对

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都是和公司同事结婚了

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所以你发现发现什么问题啊

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就是大概率呢哼你很难找到

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就是出来社会以后找到大家互相认同的

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因为没有信任感

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所以说为什么说你要个很有钱的是吧

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你真的靠钱砸是吧

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比如说你像刘强东啊

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找奶茶妹啊

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像这个啊老段啊

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找他这个人大的师妹啊

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或者说呢啊这个你看到很多大佬啊

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像美国的富豪很多啊

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你像呃甲骨文的创始人啊

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阿里森到现在呢还找了一个华人啊

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他都80多岁了

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他找了个华人才才30多岁啊

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差四五十岁

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其实呢你大概率呢就两个极端

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要不就是超级有钱的时候

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没有人在乎你年龄是不是像杨振宁啊

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找了一个28的

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所以说这个就是财富呢

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明度知名度呢是不限年龄了

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那要不呢就是什么概念呢

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你上学的时候啊

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你在你没有钱的时候

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大家都没有钱的时候

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那彼此咱就找一个认同的哈

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价值观相符的

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因为同学吧在最单纯的时候

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大家都互相了解rob

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那就是你像我们创业创业者一样啊

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就在公司里边对吧

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那在公司里面大家呢是好时间的工作关系啊

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也能互相信任

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如果说你是不是基于信任啊

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大家都是一米业之源

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光是基于表象哈

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男的展示财富啊

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女人女的展示这个哈哈

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外表这种关系其实非常不稳定

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对大家呢都在啊

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你的财富达不到预期啊

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他的外表呢啊红颜易老吧

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慢慢的就没有信任关系了

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所以这个呢也是给大家讲啊

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就是如果你想着啊让那个家庭稳定呢

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你还得把价值观放在第一位

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而不是把财富就说一说

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你特别有钱的时候呢

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你也不在乎了

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对不对

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你什么都可以包容啊

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你冲的就是年轻啊

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冲的就是听话

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但是大部分人是不可能的

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大部分其实你都不是特别特别有钱的话

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你只能做一件事去找到同道中人

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所以如果说中国没有好女人

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那不现实的好女人还是很多的

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只不过呢哼现在看这个短视频

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看抖音

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看多了很多人在他他没有那种哼没有那个成绩

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他想过那种成绩的生活

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这个很难

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他没有经历那个阶段

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他要过那个接待的生活也很难

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所以这个就是目前为什么大家都很浮躁的原因

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实际上我觉得再过两年就好了

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对因为这两年经济慢慢的萎缩嘛

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所以你再过两年

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你发现大家又误吃了

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对又回到我们那个2006年刚毕业的时候

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大家发现能吃饱饭就不错

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对这种瘦身啊

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通缩啊会让回国人很多人回归理性啊

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把那种泡沫啊统掉啊

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那些原来吃的虚胖的人呢啊慢慢的就就瘦身啊

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这个过程呢

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就是很多人呢就开始开始自我反思了

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实际上在过去的十来年

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中国这个太多的造富神话啊

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导致大部分大部分人呢他就是没有能力

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哈哈跟着这个神话的也慢慢起来了

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但是你再过几年

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你发现这种神话已经结束了对吧

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只有一种可能性

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他能够他能够活下来

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就是务实是吧

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然后自己给自己定好位

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然后呢不再好高骛远

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然后不再把自己呢呵呵

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把自己的梦想和幻想区分不开

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所以呢我也经常讲

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我说你要是想找到匹配的啊

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门当户对的这个方法就是是吧

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就是耐心的去观察价值观啊

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只跟同道中人交流

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然后从100个出道的人里面总能选一个出来啊

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就像我现在做的事一样的

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实际上我现在还是一个创业者啊

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也是个投资人

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创业者呢

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只是说我把我在过去的15周年的

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创业的那种弊端啊

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就是招不来这种同道中人

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然后把剧段给去掉了

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因为我对粉丝都认同我嘛

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拒绝认同才开始啊

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跟我产生关系嘛

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第二个呢

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就是今天呢你能力这个事呢也能解决对吧

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因为你概率嘛对吧

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你从100个人里选一个

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总比你从一个人里选一个强得多

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所以这就是给大部分人提的建议啊

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如果说你想找一个很好的老婆啊

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你最好办法就是两件事

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第一个呢把自己干成品牌

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然后让你能够筛选一些人出来

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然后把他们吸引过来之后

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你去观察

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然后第二个呢就是你在观察过程里面呢

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你在找那种价值观一致

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能力互补的对吧

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其实夫妻但也是合伙人

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你能做到两点的话

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其实不愁不愁伴侣的

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