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等下你知道我们现在在什么地方吗
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我在一家餐厅
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我们在去优胜美丽的路上
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这个地方叫马里波萨小黄
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你吃的什么东西
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你知道吧
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你这叫现烤面包
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西式浓汤和油醋汁好不好吃
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还行
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哎
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这油醋汁啊
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我给你看看
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行行行行
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油醋汁啊行行
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这个现烤面包酱油是这样
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哎你知道我看了这个油醋汁
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还有这个面汤之
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我有什么感悟吗
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这跟跟农村吃的差不多吧
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跟农村我我给你讲一下这次案例啊
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就这个浓汤
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我们上我们上初中的时候
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我们那时候呢没有钱
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我们拿粮票
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然后呢买了馒头
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一毛钱一个馒头
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然后再打一份一毛钱的浓汤
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那浓汤怎么做的
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你知道吗
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就是用盐面糊辣椒
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然后一煮就蘸着菜汤吃
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但你知道那时候我们多喜欢吃吗
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一顿饭吃六清馒头吃不饱
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到苏州的时候想想
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你尝尝这个浓汤好不好吃
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你尝尝你尝尝
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好不好吃鸡肝是吧
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来你知道这个地方
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以前以前是最著名的一个景点是干嘛的吗
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这个地方叫淘金的淘金热
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如果说你生生在我们那个年代
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就是2000年左右上初中那会你会怎么想啊
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出去打工去打工
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没有
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那个时候就是你的最美
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最好吃的就是馒头加蘸面汁
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面糊啊
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蘸面糊
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如果是你生的年代
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你今天你的状态和现在有什么区别吗
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我可能不会长这么高
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因为长太高了
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就是你个人你个人啊
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比如说你现在啊
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你现在你现在咱出来玩是吧
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然后呢你感受一下美国的风光啊
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你看看美国人的家庭啊
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你对你左右看一下
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你看美国人美国人在干嘛
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你自己看一下
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在聊天
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在聊天
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亚人聚会是吧
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那中国人在干嘛
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中国人也在聊天
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诶
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嘿中国人呢
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要不咱中国人吃饭的时候啊
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要不就是看手机
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要不就写作业
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要么不说话
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要么就是家长在叨叨哎
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对家长在叨叨哎
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哎我问你为什么美国人他不道道
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中国人老道道呀
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为啥为什么美国人他都是一家人
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在那里聚会聊天
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来加上他们脑子有病
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哎
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还有一个美国的小孩在干嘛
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这美味小孩有没有进食
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你觉得但很少特别丑
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美国的小孩有认识的吗
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你班里美国小孩
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他们的业余习惯和中国小孩有什么区别
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他们出去玩经常玩运动
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然后呢还是狐朋好友是吧是吧
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父母用不用管他们啊
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不怎么管
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那为什么中国的父母老是管孩子呢
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因为他们太穷了
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没钱出去玩呗
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嘿嘿嘿
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太穷了
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没钱出去玩
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我给你讲个真实的案例啊
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大概就在两个周之前
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有一个父亲带着孩子就趁五一啊去迪士尼玩
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结果没买速通票
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然后那个父亲呢看到别人的孩子速通票过去了
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然后他父亲直接崩溃了
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哎直接崩溃了
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你知道吧
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然后就就就找来人家迪士尼的服务员就辱骂
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然后说为什么他可以快速进去
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你能不能把那个通道挡住
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不要让我看见
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我问你
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你你听了故事之后
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你会有什么感想
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那小孩已经累趴了快
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但因为他没有买速通票
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别人买了速通票
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从他面前过去了
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他排队排了223小时
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没有没有他
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你要是抽到这题
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你会怎么想
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这个男的有点敏感
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有点敏感
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但如果他没有钱
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还想带孩子迪士尼玩怎么办呢
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那那你就不买直通票呗
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对呀那排队排了两三个小时
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天又热
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人又崩溃了
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怎么办呢
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那就去别的地方玩
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你想去爬爬山呗
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非得去这样玩
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非常棒非常棒非常棒
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我觉得我觉得老强哥这一点辩证思维很棒
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那他为什么不去华山去迪士尼呢
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因为他想跟风
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嘿嘿嘿嘿嘿
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独立策划能力很强
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哎你老杨哥独立策要有冷茶啊
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他是不是想满足孩子一个欲望
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你你想去爬山
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还想去迪士尼啊
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对啊关键孩子想去迪士尼怎么办呢
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那就去一次
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你去了之后
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我们排队排崩溃了呀
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你还还崩溃了呀
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那那天太热了
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然后孩子已经快中暑了
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怎么办呢
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他又买不起速通票
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怎么办呢
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那就只能那就去带孩子玩点别的对啊
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孩子想去迪士尼呃
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嫁到买不起通通跳
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然后呢就很痛苦
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看到别的小孩都很快的通过
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他就崩溃了
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那怎么办呢
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那你又是父亲的问题还是孩子的问题
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还是谁的问题呢
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这是父亲的问题
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父亲问题
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父亲什么问题啊
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啊父亲太敏感了
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之前太少了吧
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太敏感了
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那怎么办呢
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那怎么办
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好好挣钱好挣钱
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那问题是好好挣
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你钱赠给谁呢
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哎赠给儿子
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赠给儿子啊
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为什么挣个儿子
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如果儿子能考上北大清华
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挣个儿子
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如果儿子只靠上个职业中专
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天天玩游戏
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挣个儿子有意义吗
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你觉得小波
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那那父母挣给谁呢
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对你自己没错
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棒棒的
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哎给你老妈说啊
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挣钱啊
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要挣给自己
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那儿子怎么办
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你自己子孙儿子怎么办
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也自己赚
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儿子自己赚
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儿子自己赚钱
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父母挣的钱自己花
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这个方案你觉得怎么样
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香香哦
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不怎么行
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那怎么办呢
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那现在想去玩怎么办
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那儿子想花钱
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儿子想买个苹果的手机
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最新款手机怎么办
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那就满足他
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满足他
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那那父母没钱的
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那父母要是说一个月的工资
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可能剩下的钱都不够买辣鸡怎么办
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那就那就告诉他
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他自己没那么多钱不给孩子啊
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哇哦你觉得呢
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小波我觉得这个方法奥拉利就不给孩子买了
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要是父母很辛苦
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儿子还在玩游戏
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该怎么卖呀
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回来揍他
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揍他父母
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做儿子啊
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他不就别进厂了啊
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别经常妈妈不要做进厂
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什么叫进厂就直接去打工呗
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就打工
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儿子去打工
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儿子去打工还得去打工
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打游戏不很正常吗
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谁会啊
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我很多都打游戏
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我同学也打我哈哈外外国同学也打
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就是就比如说咱比如说啊
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比如说父母啊
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父母送外卖
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一个月挣5000块钱
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然后他回家发现儿子在拿着手机玩游戏
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然后比如说父母父父呃
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父母一个月挣5000送外卖
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然后非常非常辛苦
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然后一个月只能剩个一两千块钱
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然后拿出半年的积蓄
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给儿子买了个最新款的手机
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然后回家之后呢
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孩子在拿着手机玩玩游戏
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这时候你作为父母
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你会怎么想
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然后孩子会怎么想
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这会怎么办
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我想去当电竞选手
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嘿嘿嘿嘿
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也没啥好想去当脏
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他应该去当当
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哎
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我给你讲一个真实的案例啊
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孩子有点不会
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我讲个真实的案例啊
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就是我们小时候啊
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父母啊最大的愿望就是能让我们吃饱
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然后嘞当个保安
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这真实的啊
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爷爷奶奶觉得哇你能吃饱
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当个保安就很好了
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但爷爷奶奶从来没想过
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有一天我们在美国可以自由通行
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在美国都属于1%
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5%的这种富裕阶层
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但倪妮奶奶会享受这种美国的生活吗
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不会你觉得他该来该感受一下吗
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该来
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但他们会来吗
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会来
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嘿嘿嘿嘿
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实际上我跟你说啊
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就是每一代的父母呢都有他的宿命和愿望
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但是有这么容易实现吗
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他满足不了孩子
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就是他的问题吗
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根本就不是他的问题
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根本就不是
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因为在那个年代
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在你在你爷爷奶那个时代
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初春叫盲流
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要开大号轿车
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信叫盲流
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我昨天我让你看了一个视频
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在河南的时候啊
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才75年
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你看了没有
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杀死他20万人
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25万人多
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五二十五万人
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他为什么穷呢
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是因为大水坝垮塌了
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然后冲掉了所有的县城
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死了好几10万人
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但是这些人是不是无辜的
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他能左右自己的命运吗
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所以你会发现
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中国人有多少人能主宰自己的命运呢
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如果你妈妈不认识我
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她能主宰自己命运吗
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你看你怎么打这么快呀
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你觉得能吗
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真的不能
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到今天为止
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中国人90%以上的人走着
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为了这点命运
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所以不是你爷奶奶
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姥姥姥爷或者你叔叔阿姨
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任何人的问题
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是能主宰自性病的人
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都属于1%的人吗
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所以啊你们在美国啊已经期待很高了
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不用参加高考了啊
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但是主宰自己的命运呢要靠自觉
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等一下靠自觉主宰自己的命运
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我们是靠自己
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你是靠自觉
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这是两个不同的标准
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好不好